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Why guys will never get Sex and the City…and why that’s okay

September 12, 2009

I’ve lost count of the amount of guy friends I’ve tried to explain ‘Sex and the City’ to, and I’m not sure why I even bother. I don’t expect guys to ‘get’ the show. It’s a show written for and about women, so naturally it’s going to appeal more to women.

For women, Sex and the City revolutionised the way we view men and relationships. Before SATC it was expected that we would grow up, get married, have kids and live in the house with the white picket fence in the suburbs. Fine for some people, but a new generation of women were questioning whether they even wanted this lifestyle if they could find it. Dating has changed since our mum and dads were doing it and SATC reflected this.

Unlike the shows that came before it SATC was an accurate portrayal of women actually dating in the ’90s and ’00s. It talked about the stuff we all knew was true but no one else addressed. Women love the show because they know that’s what it’s all about. SATC tackled issues never before talked about on popular TV and we could all connect on a close level to at least one of the women.

More importantly though SATC gave us role models. It was the sort of show that said it was okay to remain single well into your thirties. It was the sort of show that said it was okay for woman to focus on their career rather than getting married. It was the sort of show that confirmed we weren’t all freaks because we weren’t married or because we didn’t want to get married. It was one of the first shows that showed women the way they really are now. The way some thing are more important to us than landing a man; like our jobs and our friendships.

Women don’t just love the show because it’s good gossipy fun and the characters are hilarious. We love it because of the message it sends us and because of how hauntingly real it it. We all know a Samantha or a Charlotte and we all know what it feels like to be a woman asking frantic questions about her love life (or sex life) over cocktails. We love Sex and the City because that’s who we are, and the show doesn’t tell us we have to grow up and settle down and that marriage and kids is the only option.

Sex and the City tells us we can have it all. And that’s what the women of today want.

Frankly, I didn’t understand why so many women dragged their husbands or boyfriends to go see the movie with them. They clearly weren’t going to enjoy it, and it’s much more enjoyable for the women to see it with their friends anyway. Guys don’t have to like SATC, and they aren’t going to. Why should they? It isn’t for them. Who decided it was the sort of thing to see with your manfriend anyway? It would be like asking your chronically overweight, chocolate addicted friend (the one who doesn’t care she’s overweight) to be your gym buddy. Or taking your friend to a Robbie Williams concert when you know they are more into Slipknot and Marilyn Manson. We can choose approriate activities for our other friends, so why not our significant other? Isn’t it better to spend time with the people you love doing thins you both enjoy? And when did I become Carrie Bradshaw? Because I was always more of a Miranda.

Oh and for the record, I didn’t even like the movie that much. I just loved the TV show.

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2 Comments leave one →
  1. martbowski permalink
    September 15, 2009 12:10 pm

    Sounds like you could do with reading my blog! http://martinthecity.wordpress.com x

  2. sugar&spice permalink*
    September 16, 2009 9:11 pm

    thanks for letting me know about your blog it’s really amusing! and it really is amazing that you’ve managed to sit through so many episodes…

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